The Real Oneness With Your Partner

When you make a commitment to monogamy, the promise is that, a promise. Unfortunately, not all hold to that promise and its an utter betrayal when they break it. But the other elephant in the room, is that part of the hurt lies in believing that the promises of physical fidelity means ownership and lordship over your partner. The absolute assumption that their own body belongs to you is an absurdity, only matched by the concept that a body, mind, and spirit can be wholly given to another 24/7, 365 days of the year. No, no, and no. In moments of intimacy, bliss, shared laughter, anger, pain, and triumph, do we share completely of ourselves with our chosen mates. And the other absurdity is believing that two people can withstand that level of personal involvement without a single crack in the parameters set.

And this isn't just about 'cheating' in the physical sense, emotional infidelity is very real as well. And the reason for the term is because, partners even feel betrayed when their chosen mate is having romantic feelings for another and miraculously doesn't bother to act on them. How can a person cope under such gestapo conditions? I would say by the state of some of our relationships in this day and age, not very well.

From a spiritual standpoint; a chosen union of monogamy is about trust in each other because of a trust in a higher power to continuously steer the both of you straight into perpetuity and that both parties will listen and obey, particularly when under romantic threat from outside forces. Read that previous sentence carefully; its a state of being that defies the laws of existence, period. Gas condenses to liquid, then solid, generally. The sun rises in the east and sets in the west, but it never does it at exactly the same time every single day of the year. How in the blazes of hell is a human being - organic, mutable, changeable, and no Methuselah - supposed to accomplish what none of material existence has managed to accomplish? We can't.

We do ourselves no favors by holding onto the outdated belief that perfect monogamy exists in all forms, at all times and is an attainable and worthy goal. Nature has taught us better than that and its time we listened. Absolutely never settle for what another can not give you, but be aware of just how much you're asking for folks.