Pre-Talk for Dirty Talk

Dirty talk in the bedroom is the best for some, but can make others feel pretty uncomfortable. Dirty talk is another component in this heady thing called intimacy and specifically sexual intimacy. And while it can be fun to scream out, “Give it to me daddy” or “n#$ all over my c&*#!), these being some of the more benign sayings in the throws of passion, it can be quite jarring if you're unprepared and you all haven't engaged in dirty talk before. Also, often times dirty talk comes about because of the intensity of the ecstasy. However, what thoughts may be going through one person's head at the time may not match with the thoughts and feelings of the moment with your partner. And this is okay. When we're having sex, first and foremost, it's a mind and body experience. Your body may be experiencing the waves of sensation and pleasure, but your mind has to process the experience too. And when we're having sex, lots of thoughts generally pop up. Some are fantasies you've had, sometimes it's random information you heard recently, or for pornography watchers a specific scene that aroused them enough to remember it, long after the first (or dozens of times) they watched it :-)

Since this mind and body experience is happening simultaneously, if either person is feeling particularly vocabularlistic and not just moaning, they 'talk', but they talk to enhance the arousal of the moment. And one's person's means of arousal can be another person's nightmare. So pre-talking dirty talk is a good idea. Because as much as we say, 'it just happened' when we have sexual relations, plenty of us know well in advance, if the opportunity presents itself, 'we'll do the do'. And the conversation can be just that, a conversation. No real weight or burden involved, because you're not thinking of something to say or not to say during the sexual act, which can interrupt the mood and rhythm. Having a casual chat about what turns each other on and what things might be said, without your clothes being off can be liberating. And it just might start an amazing moment because you all are already feeling out each others sexual style for complimentary and compatibility in regards to communication and means of arousal.

Dirty talk at the end of the day, is a way to express carnal affection from the mind. Don't let dirty words scare you, we're adults here. Lay them bare and have a kick ass minuet of pleasure.