Ladies....We've Got Work To Do Too

So as I went hard on the fellas of the world in the last piece I posted, I have something for the ladies too. At the end of the last piece, Men are from Mars, Women are From Venus, But Men are Gay; I wrote that women are repositories of empathy, the ability to stand in someone else's shoes or more psychologically and spiritually, we can FEEL another's pain. Men are not incapable, some are simply un-awakened to this innate ability within themselves.

But the inflammatory thing I am going to write about ladies is that; in our ability to FEEL other people's emotions, we've filled - inadvertently and with less thought and care than is healthy - ourselves with the negative side of those emotions; anger, possessiveness, fear, doubt. And unfortunately how this has played out on a fairly large and historical scale is that we do not let men please us. We try oh so hard; we accept the flowers, chocolates, sweet murmurings in our ear, promises of everlasting love, and small gestures that do show men care. But for some of us, even those displays of affection and love/lust (cause sometimes, neither party knows yet if its 'real', hiyo), even when sincere is not enough. We want control all the time, rather than having a shared partnership. Like in my last piece, not all women of all cultures are guilty of this or to the same degree, but the biggest issue in not letting ourselves be pleased, is we're being spiritually scraped down to quick and with little in the way of self help for revival.

I mean from a purely commercial perspective, women taking time and care of ourselves is almost like a marketed brand, we go to the spas, salons, brunches with the girls, etc. But what in the way of letting your significant others do these types of things for you, especially when offered. You're only going to get so many offers to have your feet rubbed and you turn it down in favor of feeling the need to do everything before you can sit down. We do ourselves and the men in our lives no favors by trying to appear as if all is under control, simply because we've been conditioned to believe a moment of hysteria is a sign of weakness. Furthermore should a lady feel a hysterical moment coming on, not only is she not weak, she is strong beyond measure because it takes ALOT to break a human being down to the point of hysteria. So to end this, once again a wake up call for the guys, activate your empathy, that's your super hero power, that's how you protect us women from ourselves (did you catch the patronizing there?) We've held your blood lust, your warring, your violence in our hearts, minds, wombs, our whole bodies, and our spirits for millennia. And we're sick of it, deal/sort/fix your emotions, stop pressing them on us and calling us weak. We will help you, its kinda what we're built for.

And ladies if this makes you 'feel some type of way', simple advice let a your significant other please you, or if you feel like “Ha! someone's telling men what they really need to know about themselves and what an empowered woman can offer when she's cleansed herself of other people's baggage”, share this with your men and women friends, acquaintances, and lovers. Being pleased, letting one's self be pleased, and sharing in this with reciprocity heals, from the inside out, from the outside in, and all the way around, ya feel me?

And this applies to homosexual and alternative lifestyle orientations as well. Since there's generally a 'guy' and 'gal' strictly from a sociologically constructed sense, figure out who each of you are and do the same thing as straights. Because this is a human problem, not a “us” versus “them”. Culture wars must cease. Its exhausting and dispiriting folks!